Hello all, I am Kay's son, Art. I was able to locate Kay's password for her old username chezkatie so I am using that on her behalf.
Michael, thank you for posting the news about my mom, I appreciate it. You have been a friend to my mom for some time and it was good to see that somebody was able to inform her other friends on this board. Know that we have read your heartfelt messages and condolences and they have provided comfort to us.
My mom was a great person. She was a great mom and a loving grandmother. In our case, she has lived with me and my family for the past 20 years and helped raise our children. She was a treasured co-parent. My children were blessed to have homecooked meals from across the culinary spectrum almost every night of their lives and that experience, and Kay's love as demonstrated through her passion for cooking, had an indelible impact on their lives.
Moreover, as our family traveled over the past 20 years my mom always went with us. Along the way, she taught our kids to appreciate not only sophisticated dinners at fine restaurants, but also the simple and incredible joy of regionally authentic and culturally diverse meals. That is a gift beyond measure because those basic principles of enjoying the good in all cooking regardless of origin was also a metaphor for her approach to her fellow human beings, and my children have been guided by the open-mindedness, kindness, decency, and civility that comes with enjoying other people's---ANY people's---kitchens.
I still remember when I was a young boy of about 10 and my mom declared to me and my dad that we were stopping someplace for "road food" on the way to Florida. What did not sound appealing to me at the time turned into my first experience with an authentic Carolina BBQ buffet in Manning, SC. Since then, my trips with my parents, and my children's trips with their grandmother have always included a copy of the Stern's most recent books and some incredible meals and memories.
Next to my wife, Kay was my best friend. She is the one who would watch any sport with me until any time of day or night and I will treasure and miss those moments for as long as I live. Nine days ago as she was patiently enduring what turned out to be her final televised stock car race with me, my 83 year old mom said "you know, after watching Formula 1 these NASCAR pitstops seem pretty damn slow." That's who my mom was...until the end she indulged us, she was a keen observer, she was a lover of people, food, and sport, and she was an incredible companion.
Know that in her final hours she was cognizant, intelligent, articulate, and humorous. She was surrounded by her loving children and grandchildren, and when she was finally resigned to her impending death (she did not want to die...she told the doctor she wanted to live to see her granddaughter graduate from the US Naval Academy next May) she said, "Well, this has turned out to be a lovely death." She will be loved and cherished forever and my heart is broken and I am devastated with her loss, just as she was with the recent losses of my brother and my wife's beloved mother just 2 weeks ago.
For the record, while Kay's last meal sadly was a 1/2 a chicken salad sandwich from the hospital cafeteria, in typical fashion she elevated the ordinary to the sublime with her last beverage which was a quite healthy pour of Bombay Sapphire gin. She went out like the versatile, elegant lady she was.
Thank you all for being her friend and for posting your kind condolences and know that it is during times like this that this community is at its best.
post edited by chezkatie - 2019/03/26 15:40:27