Re: Steaks and customers
I've had it happen, but not often. I agree with Rod's method, but it takes a top notch wait staff to know when to check. Sometimes they check too early, just to get it over with, and others wait too long. It's (IMO) not a "time" thing, as in "3 minute check", but a server watching, from a distance to watch eater reaction, and then checking with the client after one or 2 bites of the main dish have been eaten.
Better restaurants have the professional servers, and IMO, you should expect more there. When you are being served by a high school kid, at a Roadfood place, IMO it is a time to make a gentle suggestion if you are not happy, but if he asks you to cut into the steak, just do it.